It is not easy to describe because too much can be also too much. so i start by what i like. I enjoy being at home with family and spending quality time. I am not so much a television person, but do enjoy the TCM channel and documentary and odd movies here and there. I love books too, the mouldier the better. I collect coffee table books, though i dont read all of them but somehow it gives me a comfort to be surrounded by books ( i should live in a library!!!) but yes, i have every room in the house with books. Even if i read just one paragraph of a complex book in a month, for me is fine. I am not scared of buying books that seem outside of my brain like somethings of neuroscience or physics - they help me sleep in complexity!!! Next is fresh food. I enjoy a small vegetable garden. there is nothing better for me than tossing away the office make up and suits high heels and all that office loot...hahaha... and just fiddling in a small garden . Even better if someone i live and share life with is keen on being in the kitchen together talking whilst we chop this and that..garlic, of course why not if you can bear the smell but am told by ancient sayings that garlic does wonders for foreigners that sometimes hides in our bodies. so i eat garlic. . I enjoy spending time with family for sure, but at the same time, i enjoy my own space - not too many friends but one or two. a glass of nice wine over a nicely planned dinner or unplanned...is also welcomed. (ok if you survived to read this far then you are my hero because i cant remember what i wrote....!) anyway, where were we, ....(a common problem with one way conversation where the audience is the reader, you can forget your thoughts) but you are here, right? I am a bit of a natural artist also, so my headboard is never facing the same way for the whole year, i enjoy moving things around and always making a new feel a new look. It helps also because it means the house gets cleaned not that i want a home that looks like an ICU no, there is dust in my collection of old book remember? I have travelled extensively in Europe and East Africa but would like to know more about the rest of Africa and the surrounding islands - that says i enjoy travelling. People in office sometimes gets stress if they have to travel too far from home say maybe drive 2 hours a day. but for me i say is 2 hours in a day that i have to spend with me, just by myself listen to radio and just experience radio topic where i learn about relevant topics of the day- the breakfast shows we call them so in other words it is like when i enter my car i have another world to enjoy. My travelling though, although i have by luck been exposed to places as mmmmm as Monaco (for real) i am not really someone who would travel simply to show off or to go to the most expensive places. no , if i get spoiled yes that is fine if the person is in their right minds to blow money on one person on a weekend , different pockets right? - but it does not mean i am for luxury. no, i enjoy simple things in life as long as there is quality and what i do or eat. I enjoy what i can do for myself most before another person can do for me. If someone says, oooh lady what is your favourate food, i cant say i enjoy carviar when i drain my stomach on rice and meat daily. A working person should be able to treat themselves nice before expecting another person to take them to the moon,I am a hard working 44 years old but i balance my work and the time with family. i have one handsome fine boy to whom most of my efforts are dedicated in ensuring that he grows up to become what the society expects of him and please his maker. My ideal partner as you can imagine, has to be someone who already has his own kids, has dated and dated and dated and married and remarried and divorced and is say huuuu, now i am ready to settle. i want a woman who can be a friend and together we grown older as friends and take care of our kids and families. A woman who can understand the complex relations of having kids as a divorcees, (me) mmm what else, ooh i enjoy walks in places of nature and i am a runner, not a permanent runner but i enjoy running just to keep my heart fit other good things like looking good are just bonus i just want to keep healthy but i will not stress because i missed a run, no . i love dogs too, pure labradors. Radio is nice for me than tv. I enjoy music , African traditional music from Nigeria, Mali anywhere, my infatuation recently has been about nigerian tradition yoroba, called Fuji music i am not sure, but i love all African traditional music from any part of the continent. In terms of personality, i believe i am easy going and pleasant but toooo complex even myself sometimes i wonder about myself. i am very different in any situation, but arent we all. but i love that i am sincere and honest in all my roles of life. i come home i am a great cook, but i am not a great cook at work...lol but i give my best in all i do. as a friend, a mom, a sister, an aunt etc etc My ultimate joy would be to find a partner who is a friend. not a lover, a lover mmm may rush into exchanging silivar which would be impossible to do over internet. But someone smart, People think smart you have to be a certain graduate no, you can be naturally smart as a person , and that wisdom is a gift schooling just assist in articulating what is alrady inside you. So yes, i look forward to meeting many many friendswho i can honour and would be proud to point me anywhere ... Unfortunately, ONLY ANYONE FROM 40 YEARS is permitted to engage.